I know that it’s only been about a month since I got married so I don’t plan on giving expert advice. I just want to share my own one month experience, so just read and you might either understand what I am talking about or learn something.
It’s not just about you. This might sound cliche but marriage is all about selflessness. There have been various occasions where I want to do things “my way”, but if he doesn’t agree with my way, I have to understand why or convince him. I can’t make a lot of decisions myself without passing them through him especially money decisions (Honestly,that will take a bit of getting used to).
“Being married” is different from being “in a relationship”. I know this sounds cliche too, but what I mean is that there is a greater feeling of responsibility when it comes to marriage, also there is a greater feeling of permanency. You know that this where you belong, this is your home, your family, your husband and everything depends on you to work.
Keep your marriage interesting. I realize now that the reason why most people cheat is not because they are no longer interested in their spouses but because they’re have lost the drive to keep things interesting. Things just don’t work on their own… You have a responsibility to make things work! Flirt with your spouse, go on dates, buy gifts for each other without reason or occasion. Call each other often…even during lunch breaks. It works I promise.
In conclusion, I realize that marriage is a choice, an everyday decision. In one short month, we have had good times, bad times, terrible times. But they decision I consciously make everyday is to do whatever it takes to make my marriage work, to let go of my pride when necessary and apologize even when I am right just to keep the peace, to always encourage my spouse through the good and bad times, to uplift him in prayers every time,to make him look forward to coming home after work, to make him happy without thinking of what he can do for me but what I can do for him, to trust that he wants the best for me so I will listen to his advice and make corrections, to be his wife and helper so I do everything that’s he can’t because that’s what a helper does (not complain about what has not been done), and finally to make him thank God everyday for choosing me as his spouse.
That’s all I have learnt so far. I still have a lot of learning to do. What else should I learn. Leave me a comment so I can learn more.